Living With Chronic Pain—The Personal Side

Throughout my life I have had spells of living with pain. Ankle pain, elbow pain, back pain and more. However, I would not classify myself as having chronic pain. If the definition of chronic pain is 3 months or more (as some doctors say) than perhaps I have experienced it. However, I have personally and […]


Living With Chronic Pain—The Practical Side

Chronic pain is often described as any pain that lasts for 3-6 months or more. It can even last years. Chronic pain can take a toll on not only your physical health, but your mental health as well. If you suffer with chronic pain of any sort it is important to continually talk to your […]


A Season for Everything—The Personal Side

Many, many years ago I remember reading a study about aging white males. The study said that older white men who were single (widowers or never married) and had no friends or close family relationships had a significantly higher rate of suicide. The chance of suicide only increased in these men if they struggled with […]


A Season for Everything—The Practical Side

Do you have many friends? A few close friends? Or maybe just one best friend? Hopefully you do not live your life feeling isolated and have friends, family or both to share in your life’s greatest joys as well as the challenges you face. If you do have a best friend or a small group […]


S/he Works Hard for the Money—The Personal Side

If you are reading this, maybe you are old enough to recognize the song from which I took the title to this blog. One of my first mental health jobs after receiving my graduate degree awarded low pay paired with an incredible amount of work and specifically paperwork. We would play the song “She Works […]


S/he Works Hard for the Money—The Practical Side

“TV dinners” which became popular more than 50 years ago now were one of the first steps in us becoming an “instant culture.” Microwaves became popular not long after. Now we have instant messaging, online shopping that magically produces brown boxes at our doorsteps in days to even hours, personal shoppers and access to a […]


Self-Care 101—The Personal Side

As I said in the practical blog on this topic, I never learned about self-care in school. In fact, I didn’t really learn about self-care or what we as therapists call “positive coping skills” until I was a young adult. Sure, I had ways to cope and I even had some positive skills in my […]


Self-Care 101—The Practical Side

In grade school, at least when I was growing up, we all took sex education class. I remember they separated the boys from the girls and talked to us about our bodies and how to protect them. They even showed us anonymous pictures of people with diseases so that we could know what the diseases […]


Lifeline—The Personal Side

Are you an introvert or an extrovert? Honestly, I am a combination of the two, but if I had to pick just one I am more of an introvert than an extrovert. This means I recharge better alone. And it also means that I tend to inwardly process my thoughts, feelings and ideas before sharing […]


Lifeline—The Practical Side

A few weeks ago I came home from work, sat down at my laptop to check my email and sat there stunned for a good ten minutes after my computer fired up. On the home page that pops up before I go to my email I saw that Anthony Bourdain had died by suicide. Even […]