Pain, Pain, Go Away—The Personal Side

Many years ago, I lost a dear friend to Lupus. She had been sick since childhood when she first found out she had the autoimmune disorder. In later years she developed lung cancer and ended up losing one of her lungs during her battle. Her doctors contributed her cancer to Lupus and lifelong complications related […]


Pain, Pain, Go Away—The Practical Side

At least 100 million Americans suffer from “chronic pain” according to WebMd (www.webmd.com). There is a vast difference from what I call “regular pain” or “acute pain” and “chronic pain.” Acute pain is your body’s normal response to illness or injury and only lasts a short amount of time. Acute pain goes away with treatment—in […]


Like Fine Wine—the Personal Side

I was at a dinner party and one of the women there was jokingly telling her husband that now that he is 40 years old he is only 10 years from 50 and 20 years from 60. We all laughed and continued nibbling on our appetizers and sipping our drinks, but her comment did get […]


Like Fine Wine—the Practical Side

Whether or not you drink wine, you are most likely familiar with the saying, “I am like fine wine. I only get better with age.” Many people use this phrase jokingly, but I think most of us like to believe that we are getting better as time goes by. By better I don’t necessarily mean […]


Girls and Boys Just Wanna Have Fun—The Personal Side

My good friend who is in her early forties just shared with me about a recent night out she had that involved quite a bit of fun. She, her husband and a few other couples made dinner reservations at their favorite restaurant for a Saturday night like they usually do at least once a month. […]


Girls and Boys Just Wanna Have Fun—The Practical Side

Have you ever been to Disney World? Do remember going there as a kid? Or perhaps you have taken your child there to visit. I absolutely love going to Disney or any of the parks we have here, really. And one of my favorite things to do when I am there is people watch and […]


Making Up is Hard To Do: The Personal Side

Have you ever known someone who stated, “I hate conflict”? I have known a person or two that said this, some of whom went to great lengths to avoid conflict even when it meant not getting what they needed (and in my opinion deserved) out of a relationship.


Making Up is Hard To Do: The Practical Side

If you are as old as me, perhaps you remember the song, “Breaking Up Is Hard to Do”? Breaking up is hard to do, but so is making up. I am not talking about the positive warm feelings that often flow after you make up with a friend or moreover a lover. I am talking […]


Can You Hear Me Now?—The Personal Side

I have to believe that a higher power imbues all good therapists with a heightened ability to listen well—especially to the people we are so honored to call our clients. I truly love listening to the stories of my clients, sharing in their journeys and listening hard to determine what type of healing they need […]


Can You Hear Me Now?—The Practical Side

Remember the commercial with the guy who always said: “Can you hear me now?”? As I sat down to begin this blog this line is the first thing that came to my mind. I have been wanting to do a two-part blog series on communication and conflict resolution. However, as I sat down to begin […]