Imagine the person who causes you the most aggravation in your life right now. Maybe it’s a loved one who, despite your best eﬀorts, continues to make bad decision after bad decision. Perhaps it’s a friend who is always calling and complaining about their lives, but never takes your advice. It could be a co-worker who is always getting promoted or praised, even if you don’t think they deserve it. Now imagine how it would feel to simply accept that person for exactly who they are in this moment. Stop yourself from thinking about how to change them or what you need to do to “help”. Chances are you’d feel a little bit lighter and that knot in your stomach would be a little bit smaller. Continue reading
A few years ago a friend of mine—let’s call her Abby—went through a rough time in her marriage. Nothing terrible in that I mean no infidelity, lying, cheating, abuse or the like—just a rough time after having two kids back to back that resulted in her and her husband eventually going to therapy. Continue reading
The holiday season is upon us and my mind has already started reeling with gift ideas, menus, travel plans and the like. I have to confess to you (and laugh a little at myself) because I just started reading a book about enjoying the present instead of trying to make experiences perfect. I smile thinking about it because definite irony exists in my choosing a book on this topic during the busiest time of year. However, as I reflect on it more I think I subconsciously knew this is the EXACT time of year I should be reading this book. Continue reading
What is HRT?
Hormone replacement therapy is a medical treatment that slowly introduces either testosterone or estrogen to your system. The hormones are introduced for the purpose of changing your secondary sexual characteristics, such as facial hair, essential fats, skin texture, and breast reduction or growth depending on if you are taking estrogen or testosterone. There are also reported psychological benefits from starting HRT for transgender or gender-variant individuals such as decreased depression and anxiety. It is important to note that not every transgender or gender variant individual chooses to undergo HRT. Continue reading
Several months ago I wrote a blog post on sadness, a natural and necessary emotion. Despite our best efforts to not experience it, nearly all of us will at some point in our lives. Where there is a discussion on sadness, there needs to be one on depression as well. Because our society tends to use the word “depression” interchangeably with sadness-I believe we need to differentiate the two. Given the statistics pointing to increases of depression during this time of year, it seemed the perfect time to dispel some myths and shed some light on the subject. Continue reading
One of my best friends jokingly says in new situations, “Lower your expectations…and then lower them again.” I remember many years ago meeting up with my friend for lunch in our busy metropolis and as I sat across from her and told her I was having trouble finding good places to eat, a hairdresser and places to go for new activities, she threw her head back and laughed and said the above quote. Continue reading
Thanksgiving is upon us and I am personally trying to focus on choosing joy, gratitude and the experiences I want to have during the holidays. After all, how I feel and most of what I do boils down to choice. If you think about it, you make dozens of decisions every day. You choose what you will wear, what you will eat, what you will watch and what you will spend your time doing each night after work. Continue reading
What images come to mind when you hear the word self-care? A bubble bath with scented candles, a shopping spree, practicing some yoga, or perhaps treating yourself to that delicious-looking cupcake in the bakery window. The idea of self-care has been glamorized on social media as indulgence or treating yourself to a variety of services or products. While there is nothing wrong with a little retail therapy or exercise, there is a side of self-care rarely discussed or promoted because it can be difficult to glamorize or even talk about. We’ll be exploring several ways to indulge in self-care that tap into our raw human needs. Continue reading
Chances are, most of us have heard the popular quote “Failure is not an option.” A powerful tag line for the movie Apollo 13, it is meant to inspire hard work and diligence; showing us the tenacity and courage of those at mission control during a crisis. Many variations of the quote exist-all spouting the idea that if we work hard enough, want something bad enough and never give up-we can achieve our dreams. Continue reading
I am pleased to say that after several decades on the planet I have learned some things about how to at least try and enjoy the holidays. The summation of what I have gleaned is this: Don’t do too much and set your expectations well ahead of time.
The “don’t do too much” is a little easier to expound upon so I will start there. We live in a society where busyness is a badge of honor. We believe that always having a lot to do proves we are motivated, successful and on top of things. But, that same drive that “gets the job done” holds the potential to wear us out—especially during the holiday season—if we don’t keep it in check. Continue reading