Are you pushing sadness aside?
As my husband and I were leaving my in-law’s home during our last visit, I witnessed a scene that has played out countless times during my 12 years in this family. While we are pulling out of the driveway, my mother-in-law began to stifle tears so we wouldn’t notice she was crying. My husband, noticing the tears, makes a funny face to distract her and get her to laugh. It works, and the last thing we see as we drive down her street is her laughing. Even when we only lived 3 hours away, it always made her cry a little whenever we left. I’m sure the tears resumed once we pulled away, but for the moment she was distracted from her sadness. Continue reading
“Thank you dad”
“Any man can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a dad.”
June is a month to celebrate a very important person in many people’s lives. Dad. Happy Father’s Day to all of those men that play such an important part in their children’s lives, men that play such an important part in society, men that play such an important part in life. Continue reading
How well are you communicating healthy boundaries?
I wish I could tell you that I am perfect at setting personal boundaries with others, but alas–as with diet and exercise–I am a work in progress. Boundaries are tricky and sometimes they are hardest to set and maintain with our closest loved ones, family members and friends. Nevertheless, I try to be mindful of boundaries and communicate my needs to others. Continue reading
Do you have healthy emotional boundaries?
One of my daily, never-ending lifelong goals is to eat well and drink plenty of water. Some days I excel at eating healthy food, drinking plenty of water and even managing to squeeze in time to exercise too. Other days, I do not. Eating well and taking care of my physical body is a goal I will never retire—one I work at day in and day out. Continue reading
How are you handling your anger?
Anger is tricky. It’s another one of those emotions that are “uncomfortable” and we’re often taught not to feel it:
“Don’t be mad-it was an accident”
“I already said I was sorry-why are you still angry about that?”
“That incident was years ago-you can’t still be mad at me for that!” Continue reading
“You can’t pour from an empty cup.”
As I was speaking with my mother over the weekend, she was telling me how difficult it was to take care of my grandmother. I love my grandmother, but I can completely understand where she was coming from. My grandmother, at 76 years old, only recently stopped driving due to being in three minor auto accidents in the last year. She is struggling with balancing her new lack of independence with her desire to continue feeling needed. Continue reading
Are you experiencing trauma?
As a therapist certified in EMDR (eye-movement desensitization and reprocessing) therapy, I have found this approach to be very effective in helping many clients for a variety of issues. The current treatment guidelines of the American Psychiatric Association designate EMDR therapy as an effective treatment for post-traumatic stress. EMDR therapy is also used to treat panic attacks, grief, disturbing memories, phobias, stress, addictions anxiety as well as other mental health disorders. Continue reading
What are you experiencing?
Years ago, I spent countless hours delving into the topic of trauma. I worked intensively with some trauma survivors, talked to specialists in the field and read many, many books. Back then two things really stood out to me about trauma. Continue reading
Are your fears holding you back?
Fear is a basic, yet powerful emotion. It shows itself to us in many forms; a racing heart, surge of energy, “butterflies” in the stomach. These physical cues usually result from our most primal form of fear that sets off the fight, flight or freeze response. A near miss on the highway, physical confrontation or any number of reasons for our brains to believe we are in danger, cause us to be flooded with adrenaline and other hormones to stimulate us into action-to save our lives. Continue reading
Are you ready to talk about it?
This past weekend I was watching Disney’s Chicken Little with my son and I thought it was a great movie. I couldn’t believe I had never watched it before. It’s geared towards a younger audience, but it has many important life lessons to teach us. One of these, is the power to accept what has happened and the ability to transition to something new: closure. Continue reading