Can you recall the last time you practiced mindfulness?
Mindfulness has been a buzz word in the therapeutic community for as long as I can remember. There are books, classes and trainings on it and many therapists choose to focus on mindfulness not only with clients, but also in their personal lives—myself included.
According to Psychology Today, mindfulness is “a state of active, open attention on the present. When you’re mindful, you carefully observe your thoughts and feelings without judging them good or bad. Instead of letting your life pass you by, mindfulness means living in the moment and awakening to your current experience, rather than dwelling on the past or anticipating the future.” Continue reading
Are you maintaining important friendships?
Human beings are social creatures. Attachment to others is hard wired into our development. Our first relationships with our parents or caregivers, then our siblings and eventually school age friendships form the building blocks of how we relate to others as adults. Continue reading
At the beginning of my career, I primarily worked with children in home and school settings. My routine was to receive the referral, go to the home and meet the family, talk about the reason for referral, and introduce myself to the client. After this initial session, I would then go to the school and speak with counselors, teachers, and the client. This practice gave me a well-rounded view of what was happening with the child. We would then decide if it was best to continue meeting in school, at home, or in a combination of the two, while always keeping in contact with parents and guidance counselors to keep track of progress. Continue reading
What do you want to let go of?
Without sharing all of my life’s dirty laundry, let me just say that letting go is something I have struggled with in the past—especially when people have deeply hurt me. I think we all have at least one person be it a family member, friend or lover who has hurt us emotionally in ways that are difficult to bounce back from. Depending upon the situation, sometimes we let go rather quickly of the pain and other times we hold onto it for months—even years. Continue reading
What are you holding onto?
If you have children, or have ever spent any time around small children then you have seen a temper tantrum. Some temper tantrums are loud and wild and look like kids throwing themselves on the floor of Target because their mom won’t buy them a certain toy. Other tantrums are quieter, more subtle—like the child at a play date who slinks off to the corner to pout with arms folded and bottom lip stuck out because their little friend won’t share a certain toy with them. Continue reading
Are you pushing sadness aside?
As my husband and I were leaving my in-law’s home during our last visit, I witnessed a scene that has played out countless times during my 12 years in this family. While we are pulling out of the driveway, my mother-in-law began to stifle tears so we wouldn’t notice she was crying. My husband, noticing the tears, makes a funny face to distract her and get her to laugh. It works, and the last thing we see as we drive down her street is her laughing. Even when we only lived 3 hours away, it always made her cry a little whenever we left. I’m sure the tears resumed once we pulled away, but for the moment she was distracted from her sadness. Continue reading
“Any man can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a dad.”
June is a month to celebrate a very important person in many people’s lives. Dad. Happy Father’s Day to all of those men that play such an important part in their children’s lives, men that play such an important part in society, men that play such an important part in life. Continue reading
How well are you communicating healthy boundaries?
I wish I could tell you that I am perfect at setting personal boundaries with others, but alas–as with diet and exercise–I am a work in progress. Boundaries are tricky and sometimes they are hardest to set and maintain with our closest loved ones, family members and friends. Nevertheless, I try to be mindful of boundaries and communicate my needs to others. Continue reading
Do you have healthy emotional boundaries?
One of my daily, never-ending lifelong goals is to eat well and drink plenty of water. Some days I excel at eating healthy food, drinking plenty of water and even managing to squeeze in time to exercise too. Other days, I do not. Eating well and taking care of my physical body is a goal I will never retire—one I work at day in and day out. Continue reading
How are you handling your anger?
Anger is tricky. It’s another one of those emotions that are “uncomfortable” and we’re often taught not to feel it:
“Don’t be mad-it was an accident”
“I already said I was sorry-why are you still angry about that?”
“That incident was years ago-you can’t still be mad at me for that!” Continue reading