Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. -Viktor Emil Frankl, Austrian neurologist, psychiatrist, author and Holocaust survivor So, you make me feel… Nope. Sorry. You don’t make me feel anything. This is a good thing! A more accurate statement would be, “When x happens, […]
“The art of conversation is the art of hearing as well as being heard.” William Hazlitt Do you ever find yourself listening to someone, but not really focusing on what they are saying? Instead, you’re thinking of what you want to tell them about yourself or your story. Maybe you have the opposite problem. You would […]
I recently read a quote online that went something like this: I don’t set a boundary to offend you. I do it to manage the goals and priorities I have set for my life. Reading this quote took me back many years to the beginning of grad school. One of my professors told us that our […]
Yes and No are such small words in comparison to the many other amazing words in our language; however, these little words can be very powerful. Oftentimes we are afraid to say “YES” and experience something new (that might be initially uncomfortable)…and “NO” when we need to stop putting others before ourselves. Here are some of […]
“The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” -George Bernard Shaw How many times have you heard “Talk to me for once!” or “I can’t communicate with you right now!” or “Are you even listening to me?” As a therapist in Orlando working with couples and families, I hear these […]
In the practical blog on conflict I offered some simple steps to dealing with conflict. Now I want to talk about how I (and I think most people) handle conflict.
Interpersonal conflict is guaranteed in life. Some would even say the holidays foster it as we find ourselves spending time with family members we may try to avoid the remainder of the year. In December’s blog I will talk about ways to prevent conflict. But for now, let’s talk about how to handle conflict once […]
In today’s society, self-esteem is perhaps more elusive than ever. All day long we are bombarded with images of what we should look like, drive, wear, etc. Women and men feel extreme pressure to live up to the standard of Hollywood’s idols—movie stars who have unlimited access to trainers, chefs and yes, plastic surgery.
If you are depressed, anxious, addicted to drugs or alcohol, in a domestic violence relationship or suffering from Posttraumatic Stress Disorder, you may have low self-esteem. In fact, low self-esteem plays a role in many mental health disorders. However, you can have low self-esteem without having a specific disorder.
Dependent. Co-dependent. Afraid to be alone. Passive. I have been all of these things at some point in my life, though less and less so as the years go by. As my mom likes to say, my “emotional batting average” continues to improve.