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Relationship Inventory — The Personal Side

I have always said that whenever I need to work on something “the universe” has a way of letting me know. Recently, everywhere I turn the topic of relationship improvement is surfacing. I am reading about it in various books, … Continue reading

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Relationship Inventory — The Practical Side

We are constantly taking inventory of different things in our lives. How much food is in the refrigerator, how many clean outfits we have left to wear before taking a trip to the dry cleaner, how much money is in … Continue reading

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Love Science

Maybe John Lennon was on to something when he wrote the song Love is All You Need. In our society today love is looked upon as something whimsical, mysterious, intangible and fleeting. You are lucky if you experience it and even … Continue reading

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Building Your Sound Relationship House: Part 7- Creating Shared Meaning

The final step in Gottman’s Sound Relationship House is Creating Shared Meaning. This area focuses on rituals of connection, roles, goals, and symbols for the couple. Gottman posits that each family creates its own unique culture. Within that family’s culture, … Continue reading

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Building Your Sound Relationship House: Part 6- Making Dreams and Aspirations Come True

This aspect of Gottman’s Sound Relationship House focuses on partner’s helping each other achieve their goals, dreams, and aspirations. Not only do the partner’s listen and learn about what the other hopes to achieve, but they work on ways to … Continue reading

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Forging & Maintaining Meaningful Relationships — The Personal Side

I am old enough to have experienced several seasons of life. Some life seasons are easier to forge and maintain relationships in than others. In my late teens and early 20s I felt like I had all the time in … Continue reading

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Forging & Maintaining Meaningful Relationships — The Practical Side

We live in a time when we are more connected than we have ever been thanks to things like social media, the internet and smart phones. And yet, some of us feel more DIS-connected than ever.

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Premarital Counseling

What is my communication style? Does my birth order affect my current relationship? What is my philosophy on finances and spending? What makes me feel heard and understood? What are my personal and professional expectations for the future? These are … Continue reading

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Building Your Sound Relationship House: Part 5- Managing Conflict

The next step in building your own sound relationship house is learning to manage conflict.  I believe that conflict is part of every relationship, but it doesn’t have to be something that blows up or makes our relationship less enjoyable. 

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Building Your Sound Relationship House: Part 4- Create a Positive Perspective

The next step in building your own sound relationship house is learning to create a positive perspective or positive sentiment override instead of a negative sentiment override.  Many couples experience positive sentiment override at the start of a relationship. 

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