The way we communicate with others and with ourselves ultimately determines the quality of our lives. –Tony Robbins One of the top reasons couples seek therapy is lack of communication. Talking with your partner seems like it should be the easiest thing to do, yet it can feel like half of what you say never gets through to him/her. […]
So when you feel like hope is gone, Look inside you and be strong, And you’ll finally see the truth, That a hero lies in you. -Mariah Carey, Hero I had always thought that there were four possible conflicts in literature: Man vs. Man, Man vs. Society, Man vs. Nature and Man vs. Self. Recently however, a […]
Chances are, if you’re not in therapy, someone you know is. A recent survey, commissioned by Psychology Today, found that 27% of Americans (approximately 59 million people) made use of psychological services within the two years prior to the survey. Of those who did seek counseling, an overwhelming majority of respondents (80%) reported that it was […]
A good friend recently asked me why her daughter was “acting out (being short, non-compliant, angry).” She explained, “I’ve done everything to make her happy. I buy her whatever she wants. No matter what I do for her she is still defiant, and seems unhappy. I’ve tried sitting her down and asking what’s going on, […]
As a therapist I am constantly seeking to help my clients envision a multitude of possibilities when processing troubling life events. As humans we often tend to explain situations in rigid terms of right and wrong, good or bad, or black and white. When something happens to us, we immediately begin to create a story […]
We all overeat from time to time. This can include indulging in a decadent dessert when you’re already full, or taking that extra helping at a family gathering. For binge eaters, however, this is a regular event that generally happens in secret and is accompanied with a feeling of disgust and a complete loss of […]
One of the most important ways for parents to connect with their children is through play. According to a recent report by the American Academy of Pediatrics, “free and unstructured play” is both “healthy” and “essential” for the cognitive, emotional, and social development of children. Play has been found to reduce stress and anxiety in […]
Anger can be a symptom of depression, grief, acute stress disorder, bipolar disorder, substance abuse and/or addiction, personality disorders, eating disorders, schizophrenia and many, many other disorders. Thus, anger should never be ignored. And, even if you seek treatment and find that you do not have a diagnosable mental health disorder, feelings of anger should […]
“Anger management” is a term that is used loosely nowadays and even used jokingly in movies and conversations to refer to treatment that might help emotionally explosive individuals. But, anger is a real and powerful emotion and can be dangerous both for the person with deep feelings of anger and for those around him/her.
When we get married, we have many plans and dreams for our future with our partner. Most of us know that the divorce rate is over 50%, but we just know that it won’t happen to us…..and then it does.