When we get married, we have many plans and dreams for our future with our partner. Most of us know that the divorce rate is over 50%, but we just know that it won’t happen to us…..and then it does.
I remember one day when my son was around 3 years old he was playing with a metal bowl that reflected the light from the window onto the ceiling of our living room forming the shape of a crescent moon. When he saw the moon on the ceiling he wanted to reach and touch the […]
I have always said that whenever I need to work on something “the universe” has a way of letting me know. Recently, everywhere I turn the topic of relationship improvement is surfacing. I am reading about it in various books, listening to speeches about it, seeing it on social media and my friends (so many […]
We are constantly taking inventory of different things in our lives. How much food is in the refrigerator, how many clean outfits we have left to wear before taking a trip to the dry cleaner, how much money is in our bank accounts. But, do we stop often enough to take inventory of the relationships […]
It is that time of year that we get graduation announcements in our mailboxes and maybe even attend a graduation ceremony or two. Graduating high school is one of the first major milestones we accomplish in life. We start on our academic journey as a 5 year old and emerge as a young adult prepared […]
Maybe John Lennon was on to something when he wrote the song Love is All You Need. In our society today love is looked upon as something whimsical, mysterious, intangible and fleeting. You are lucky if you experience it and even luckier if you can hold on to it. If we look at love as something […]
The final step in Gottman’s Sound Relationship House is Creating Shared Meaning. This area focuses on rituals of connection, roles, goals, and symbols for the couple. Gottman posits that each family creates its own unique culture. Within that family’s culture, different things, holidays, traditions, etc. hold great importance. For example, some families insist that dinnertime […]
This Spring I have started a “15 minutes a day challenge” for myself. When Lent commenced, I thought about giving something up for it (even though I am not Catholic) simply because I thought it would be a good practice in self-discipline. Before I could think of what to give up someone told me that […]
Spring. I love Spring because it always invokes in me a sense of newness and fresh beginnings. Every year when Spring arrives I have this instinctual drive to start cleaning out my closets and washing my windows.
I have a dear friend who lost her husband a few years ago. She is a single mom now with two young boys. I remember wanting to convey to her that I would be there for her, no matter what. I came across this story that conveyed beautifully what I wanted her to know.