Frederic Gros is a french philosopher who edited Michel Focault’s paper’s (another french philosopher, political activist, and historian); wrote the Philosophy of Walking in 2014 which is a great book on mindfulness, being present, and (of course) walking. A Philosophy of Shame was published in May of this year. He poses a different narrative to shame than the one I feel we currently cling to in psychology.
Looking back over my life, the list of what I have waited for is somewhat daunting. In my adult life alone, I have waited for: high school to finish, college to start, college to finish, grad school to start, grad school to finish, dating to begin, engagement to take place, marriage, children and home buying (more than once). I have also waited on my business to start and my business to grow. In relationships, I have waited for friendships to be conceived, for relationships to grow and for reconciliation when things went sideways. In my family, I have waited for loved ones to get better and for my sorrow to heal when they did not. I can personally say that I have spent much of my life waiting. And even today, there are big and small things in my life I am waiting for and I am guessing the same is probably true for you.