15Mar

Relationship Self-Sabotage

Healthy relationships are important for our wellbeing. We need secure bonds with people who we trust and can rely on. Romantic or nonromantic these are of the utmost importance. Feeling loved unconditionally, being treated well, and communicating properly are signs of a healthy connection. Some people find it difficult to sit with these feelings. They […]

01Mar

Neurodivergent Versus Neurotypical-The Practical Side

“Neurodivergent” is a buzzword that came from the related term “neurodiverse.” You may have heard someone describe themselves as “neurodivergent” or being “neurodiverse.” Judy Singer (a sociologist) coined the word “neurodiversity” in 1998 to point out that every person’s brain develops in a unique way. In fact, we know that no two brains—even the brains […]

15Feb

Necessary Guilt: Choosing Yourself

Making a choice for oneself doesn’t always only effect the person who makes it. But making a choice for oneself should be from a place of prioritizing yourself, not others feelings. You are not wrong for putting yourself first. You are not selfish for putting yourself first. You are providing for yourself the bare minimum. […]

01Feb

Ambiguous Loss—The Personal Side

As weird as it sounds, I have always been personally and professionally interested in grief. I think it is because somewhere along the way I realized that grief, like love, is universal. The saying goes—if you love you will grieve. And I have found this to be true. People that know me say I “love […]

15Jan

What Do I Think Of Me?

When is the last time you asked yourself that question. In our society, we are so often oriented towards the grade given from others, the approval or disapproval given from others, and the desire to curb loneliness. We seek reprieve from our own self critique. The cliché of being ones own harshest critic is a […]

01Jan

Ambiguous Loss—The Practical Side

“Ambiguous loss happens when you are grieving someone who is still living. It’s different than the grief you experience when someone you love dies. That kind of loss is finite and certain and there’s no question you should feel pain. Ambiguous loss happens when something or someone profoundly changes or disappears” (www.whatsyourgrief.com ). Some examples […]

20Dec

Choosing Yourself

Politeness is behavior that is respectful and considerate of other people. We are often socialized to be polite. To use manners. To not offend. To consider others, sometimes to a degree that’s unhelpful to ourselves. Politeness can be shown with being apologetic, minimizing the imposition, seeking agreement, joking, or expressing optimism. Especially in the U.S., […]

10Dec

Your Best Yes—The Personal Side

When I was younger, my mom would often advise me to “slow down.” She would say, “just because you can do everything does not mean you should do everything.” And most memorably, “every time you say yes to one thing, you say no to something else.”

01Dec

Your Best Yes—The Practical Side

Every time you say “yes” to something you say “no” to something else. The opposite is also true. Time is one of the most valuable resources we have (along with health) and so it makes sense that we must learn to spend it wisely.

20Nov

Rushing

“The illusion of speed is the belief that it saves time. It looks simple at first sight: finish something in two hours instead of three, gain an hour. It’s an abstract calculation, though, done as if each hour of the day were like an hour on the clock, absolutely equal.