Something I always come back to emphasizing in the therapeutic alliance is the need to build support outside of session. Your therapist is great, but they cannot be your village, your best friend, or your community. Especially since COVID, it feels like building community has become increasingly more difficult.

Control is mostly an illusion. We can control some things—such as the clothes we pick out to put on each day, the food we take into our bodies and how we spend our time. And yet, there are so many things we cannot control. And most of these are big things.