Babies, marriage, leaving for college, buying your first home—whatever celebratory occasion it may be—people rarely tell you that there is stress involved in these momentous occasions. Sure, they may tell you that planning a wedding is costly or that staying up all night with a new baby is exhausting, but people rarely tell you about […]
What is Locus of Control? Do you control your life, or does the environment determine how things turn out? Most people will answer that there is a mix of the two. You get to choose what cereal you buy, the friends you have, and what temperature you set your air conditioning to. But you don’t […]
One of the most common symptoms in victims of abuse and domestic violence is self-blame and possibly one of the hardest symptoms to overcome as well. Self-blame is a torturous cycle, yet we engage in it because it’s familiar, it becomes comfortable, and it’s all we’ve ever known so how can we recognize that we […]
Have you ever heard the statement, “you don’t know what you don’t know.” Sometimes that can be true. I find it important to remind myself that I don’t know everything—especially when it comes to people who have had majorly different life experiences than me.
When you think of the word “competent,” what comes to mind? The first thing that comes to mind when I think of this word is a skilled and experienced worker. And if you want the complete visual, I picture a woman in business casual attire going about her workday looking confident and professional. I probably […]
Many clients who come to counseling come to deal with things like depression, anxiety, panic, or trauma. The evidence is clear at this point that these conditions have physical and mental symptoms that accompany them. The old saying of. “it is all in your head” is false as the mind-body connection shows us that our […]
Domestic violence can be a touchy subject, however, given the recent pandemic and increase in domestic violence cases, it definitely warrants a spotlight. For starters, I would just like to advise that if you are in a domestic violence situation currently at home, please be cautious when reading this blog and clear your viewing history. […]
As I discussed in the practical blog on this topic, I have felt overwhelmed witnessing the death of George Floyd and all of the events surrounding it. I have felt an array of emotions–felt moved to promote change and support the oppressed and yet felt powerless as one person mostly holed up at home due […]
Over the past several weeks, I have seen more adult African-American men and women cry than I have in my whole life–on TV panels talking about race, on televised church discussing humanity and even on a professional Zoom meeting where the topic was race. Seeing such vulnerability has moved me to tears and broken my […]
Depression is one of the most commonly experienced challenges of the mind in the world. The World Health Organization reported that 264 million people around the world suffer with depression. The WHO’s statistics only include those who meet the diagnostic criteria for Depressive Disorders, and those who are reported. Imagine how many people suffer with […]
