“The honey doesn’t taste so good once it is being eaten; the goal doesn’t mean so much once it is reached; the reward is not so rewarding once it has been given. If we add up all the rewards in our lives we won’t have very much. But if we add up the spaces between […]

The vast majority of people we will interact with over the course of our lives will mean well. Sure, there is a small subset of the population who, due to brain wiring issues, enjoy causing physical and emotional harm. But these people are rare and we will go most days of our lives without encountering […]

As I sat at my computer trying to figure out what to write about, one of my favorite TikTok people, went live. I love him because he is so incredibly positive, he plays these cool instruments called handpans and plays them outside in some beautiful locations. He has dreadlocks and a long beard turning grey. […]

A friend came to me recently and was distraught after a project she had invested blood, sweat, tears and a significant amount of money in failed. We sat on my sofa together and I was mostly quiet…just trying to be present for her and witness the quiet tears slowly streaming down her face.

“You need to be good at losing.” This is something I grew up hearing. What my mom meant when she said this is that I needed to respond well to disappointment. She did not mean I should expect to lose or even not care about losing. She meant that when things did not go as […]

For any of you book worms, reading can be a great way to learn more and grow emotionally by receiving different perspectives and ways of thinking on difficult topics. This book is just under 70 pages, so an easy read for most people. Oliver Clerc tackles the topic of forgiveness through his book The Gift […]

Grief is defined as a deep sorrow, especially that caused by someone’s death. We tend to associate grief with the loss of someone, however we can grieve over many things. I knew someone during my undergraduate program when I first started to teach a grief class that had to move away from where he had […]

Existentialism and Existential Psychology are great topics to bring up if you want most people to have their eyes roll back and fall asleep. The existential topics of mortality, change, purpose/meaning, and self-actualization are very difficult to focus on due to their massive implications and lack of connection to everyday life. As a fan of […]

“Divorcees are losing the person they have been most connected to their whole life” (The New York Times). This is the grief piece of divorce I spoke about in the practical blog on this subject. Divorce involves loss, grief, loneliness and sometimes shame.

According to the CDC, approximately half of all marriages end in divorce. And, second and third marriages have even higher rates of divorce than first marriages. Common causes of divorce include major life stressors, conflict, infidelity, lack of physical intimacy and lack of commitment.