A friend came to me recently and was distraught after a project she had invested blood, sweat, tears and a significant amount of money in failed. We sat on my sofa together and I was mostly quiet…just trying to be present for her and witness the quiet tears slowly streaming down her face.

“You need to be good at losing.” This is something I grew up hearing. What my mom meant when she said this is that I needed to respond well to disappointment. She did not mean I should expect to lose or even not care about losing. She meant that when things did not go as […]

For any of you book worms, reading can be a great way to learn more and grow emotionally by receiving different perspectives and ways of thinking on difficult topics. This book is just under 70 pages, so an easy read for most people. Oliver Clerc tackles the topic of forgiveness through his book The Gift […]

Grief is defined as a deep sorrow, especially that caused by someone’s death. We tend to associate grief with the loss of someone, however we can grieve over many things. I knew someone during my undergraduate program when I first started to teach a grief class that had to move away from where he had […]

Existentialism and Existential Psychology are great topics to bring up if you want most people to have their eyes roll back and fall asleep. The existential topics of mortality, change, purpose/meaning, and self-actualization are very difficult to focus on due to their massive implications and lack of connection to everyday life. As a fan of […]

“Divorcees are losing the person they have been most connected to their whole life” (The New York Times). This is the grief piece of divorce I spoke about in the practical blog on this subject. Divorce involves loss, grief, loneliness and sometimes shame.

According to the CDC, approximately half of all marriages end in divorce. And, second and third marriages have even higher rates of divorce than first marriages. Common causes of divorce include major life stressors, conflict, infidelity, lack of physical intimacy and lack of commitment.

Grief is a complex myriad of emotions that encompass what loss feels like. During the pandemic especially many of us have had to mourn the loss of a loved one or a friend. Grief is an emotion that regardless of age or stage of life it is painful. Grieving a loss is a complex process […]

In my last blog I talked about making healthy life changes. I briefly touched on setting goals. In this blog I’m going into more details about setting goals and the best way to do this. I’m a goal setter, whether it’s something hard like going back to school to get my masters, moving across the […]

One of the most surprising things of being a therapist for myself has been the sheer magnitude the impact of sleep has on all other issues. This is not to say that I am shocked that getting good sleep is important, but the amount that poor sleep magnifies other problems can not be understated. It […]