Our lives today are ruled by our habits, how we react to things, the way we get to work, how in shape we are, what we believe are all examples of different habits that people have. Habits define who we are as people. So, if we want to improve our lives and change our habits […]

The idea that there are far more types of relationships these days as compared to the past is a bit misleading. We have labels now to communicate relationship styles like open relationships, casual relationships, traditional relationships, etc. These different relationships have been around forever as any even quick dive into history will show, but now […]

I cannot tell you how many individuals have sat in my office and bared their souls about the pain they have experienced as the result of an affair. Affairs damage people and relationships and they are hard to bounce back from. And, yet, it is possible to learn, grow and heal from the experience—however painful. […]

Did the title of this blog get your attention? I hope it did, but I must start this piece with a full disclosure. There is NO way to 100% affair proof your marriage or relationship…just like there is no way to 100% baby proof your home. Life is messy and human beings are complicated. Having […]

To often we get caught up in the “what if’s” of life. What if I had done this instead of that? What if I had gone this way instead of that way? What if I had called this person instead of ignoring them? What if I had stayed calm during the argument instead of blowing […]

When working with addiction, the term relapse is thrown around all the time. It can refer to a slip up of using substances one time, or a full-blown return to the behaviors and patterns that were prominent at the height of addiction. Relapses are common in that world but the process of relapse can also […]

While listening to a podcast recently, the narrator talked about “comfort words.” He started his talk listing comfort foods—foods we eat to make us feel better when we are down, stressed or even bored. He then moved on to “comfort words.” He described comfort words as phrases we tell ourselves that comfort us—some of which […]

Nowadays it seems we are hyper-aware of so many things. We are inundated with information from around the world that lives at our fingertips via our phones—through the web, news apps and live streaming. With COVID we are conscious about masks, social distancing and what our governor’s current recommendations are.  We are increasingly vigilant about […]

As I prepared for my trip down to Florida from Arizona, my stress and anxiety levels naturally went up. Trying to get a multiple dog household across the country in one piece wasn’t going to be easy or cheap. As I spoke to a friend about it and what I was doing for self-care and […]

New Year resolutions are ingrained in our culture. You would be hard pressed to find anyone who hasn’t heard of them and/or participated in them themselves. Typically, we come up with our resolutions around the time of the New Year celebrations and there are some fairly common ones. Typical resolutions include weight loss, changes in […]