What is my communication style? Does my birth order affect my current relationship? What is my philosophy on finances and spending? What makes me feel heard and understood? What are my personal and professional expectations for the future? These are all questions that one should be asking before making a serious commitment to another, but it can be difficult to bring up these “what if” situations in the midst of the excitement of an engagement or moving in together.
It can be scary to delve into possible conflict-producing conversations. What if we do not agree on something that could lead to a break-up? While that is a real possibility, it is so important to find out before a commitment is made whether or not certain issues can be addressed and worked on or if they are “deal breakers”.
According to the article, “Preferences of Individuals in Committed Relationships about Premarital Counseling” in The American Journal of Family Therapy (2013), research has found that premarital counseling is preferable to not going through the process. Research has also found a higher rate of marital satisfaction among couples who have undergone premarital counseling. It is much more beneficial to find out as much as you can about your partner before you decide to share your lives together. Not only could it prevent further pain in the long run, but it can enrich your relationship in ways you never thought possible. Opening the lines of communication about serious issues, allows you and your partner to be there for each other in ways that will enhance and grow your relationship.
The truth of the matter is that all relationships need help and support at one point or another. If you are interested in premarital counseling, please call Life Enhancement Counseling Services today at 407-443-8862 to make an appointment with a mental health counselor.