The Golden Rule – The Personal Side

The older I become the more I realize there is much I do not know about etiquette.  For example, growing up my parents were usually the hosts of big holiday parties.  The guests always brought gifts when they came to dinner, but being young I never noticed.  Only in my early adult years did I learn that when you go to someone’s house for dinner, you take a gift. 

I am constantly learning about what is “proper” and have found that there are plenty of books and websites to help one learn what is appropriate and what is not.  I admit that I am not disciplined enough to study etiquette as much as I probably should.  Yet, it is my hope that being mindful of the Golden Rule will help me to demonstrate not only good manners, but kindness to others.

Throughout the day I try to treat others as I would want to be treated.  When things happen unexpectedly, I try to spend time in reflection.  For example, when I am late for an appointment, I think about how the other party views my tardiness.  Do they think I am busy or had an emergency?   Do they think I value my time more than theirs?  How would I feel if I was waiting for them?  No one is perfect, and if you have a specific etiquette question it is worth researching.  However, practicing the Golden Rule may help you achieve what I consider the highest form of etiquette, kindness.

Moreover, thinking about your actions and their consequences throughout the day will help you learn mindfulness, a wonderful therapeutic technique.  If you would like to schedule an appointment to learn more about mindfulness, please contact Life Enhancement Counseling Services in Orlando today at 407-443-8862.


Yolanda Brailey