An Attitude Adjustment—The Personal Side

Many years ago, I was facing a major life stressor and feeling very overwhelmed to say the least. The stressor was actually something I had been hoping and waiting for, but it still arrived with a great deal of stress (and of course some celebration too).

I remember meeting up with a friend (who also happened to be a therapist) and she gave me some sound advice. She told me to give myself 6 months. She said that I should keep utilizing all of my current coping skills—things like spending regular time with members of my support system, exercising, journaling and meditating—but that I should still give myself TIME. My instant, gut reaction was “YIKES” since I am not always good at waiting. You see, when she said “time” I heard “wait.” The truth is we were both right. As time progressed and I took care of myself, my stress level lowered and I began to experience feelings of peace, progress and purpose. 

I had a pretty emotional year overall, but the first six months were the hardest (just like my friend predicted). I had good days and bad days, but I kept pushing through and making choices to benefit my emotional and physical health. At the end of those 6 months I realized I had grown stronger emotionally. I also felt more ready to face the future, no matter what it held. I would like to say I was “passionately patient” and “waited well” during this entire season, but the truth is that was not always the case.  However, I DID try to–more days than not–do something for me—even if it was just a cup of tea and 5 quiet minutes before bed.

Life and change can be hard. If change wasn’t difficult no one would ever experience adjustment disorders. We would all just gracefully transition from one life season to the next and never get rattled by stressors. However, it takes support, knowledge and skills to manage the stress life throws at us and remain mentally, emotionally and physically healthy. If you are experiencing stress, having trouble adjusting or dealing with feelings of depression or anxiety an Orlando mental health counselor can help you. She can provide support and help you identify and implement coping skills that will help you in whatever life season you find yourself. You won’t regret taking that first step to care for yourself. Please call Life Enhancement Counseling Services today at 407-443-8862 to schedule an appointment with a seasoned and skilled psychotherapist.


Yolanda Brailey