One year at my family reunion, my cousin was upset with herself for having forgotten to bring something (a food item, I believe). She began berating herself out loud in a most unforgiving way. “I should have known better. Why didn’t I double check? I’m always forgetting something. Leave it to me. Mom told me not […]
From my Previous Blog… Change what you can control and learn to love the rest. Sometimes we can control our circumstances, and sometimes we cannot. If we choose to dwell on those parts of ourselves that we cannot change, we are choosing to dislike ourselves. It can be exhausting to continuously worry about the things […]
We are meant for connection that is intimate, where we can be truly known by another. When someone knows only where we work, how many kids we have, our relationship status or other very practical things about our lives; they only know what is on the surface. Intimate connection involves peeling back the layers of our lives […]
I believe it takes your whole life to achieve your destiny. I feel there are things we are supposed to accomplish in each season of life. And, we “achieve” our destiny only when we finish the race of life and have nothing left to learn, experience or contribute.
Life is full of changes. This week I learned that a friend of mine has been promoted and will move across the country soon. A few days after that, my phone rang and I was told a family member’s cancer has returned. And just this morning a friend of mine’s infant daughter was admitted to […]
“The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” -George Bernard Shaw How many times have you heard “Talk to me for once!” or “I can’t communicate with you right now!” or “Are you even listening to me?” As a therapist in Orlando working with couples and families, I hear these […]
Chances are, if you’re not in therapy, someone you know is. A recent survey, commissioned by Psychology Today, found that 27% of Americans (approximately 59 million people) made use of psychological services within the two years prior to the survey. Of those who did seek counseling, an overwhelming majority of respondents (80%) reported that it was […]
There is an adage that most of us have heard at some point while we were growing up. It states, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say anything at all.” I think, in general, that’s a great rule to live by. However, realistically, if you don’t have anything nice to say, […]
Relationships where one can experience the freedom to explore and discover oneself through hope, love and acceptance provide security and space to grow. However, relationships where abuse is present can confuse the very core of one’s understanding and expectations of what makes a relationship healthy, and of who one is as well.
I wish I could tell you that emotional resolutions are easy. I wish I could tell you that the journey of personal growth is virtually stress-free and includes endless waves of joyous moments in which you feel enlightened and encouraged. But, alas, this is not always so. And while working on emotional resolutions will yield […]
