I love relationships. How could I not? I did after all choose to become a therapist. And, after decades of relationships–both personal and professional–with many different kinds of people, I have gleaned a few basic truths. Most importantly, I have learned (which I think deep down I have believed since I was a teenager) that […]
“You don’t need love to make a relationship last.” I recently heard this quote at a speaking engagement. The topic was marriage and the expert was illustrating how love gets us into our relationships, but that it takes much more than that for a love relationship to stand the test of time. For a relationship […]
“Sad things happen. They do. But we don’t need to live sad forever.”- Mattie Stepanek Often things happen that are outside of our control. However, we have more in our control than actually meets the eye. We tend to focus on the negative more than the positive, but positives lie in everything we do.
I just completed the scenic painting for a local theatre’s stage production. For me it is a passion project. I love working for the theatre. I love the creative minds and beautiful souls who are drawn to this sort of work. The hours were grueling and the design was extremely complex. I admit that I […]
From my previous post… Do not compare yourself to others. Thomas Jefferson once said, “Comparison is the thief of Joy.” If we compare ourselves to the models in the magazines, especially those who have been drastically altered, we are doing ourselves a huge injustice.
When I think of what is impossible versus possible, I often think of those who first worked on our space programs. We have gone from early astronomers gazing at the stars to putting man on the moon and exploring our universe. I had an opportunity a few years ago to view the launch pad of the […]
I recently read an item in a magazine about stress that went something like this…Being stressed causes your hair to fall out. And seeing your hair fall out in large amounts induces feelings of stress which causes more hair to fall out. I laughed out loud when I read this. Now, don’t get me wrong. I […]
Do you know anyone who would say they are not stressed? I can honestly say I do not know any one person who does not have stress in at least one life area. Stress can be good when it helps us finish a project, master a new skill or rescue someone in danger. But prolonged […]
A child exhibiting aggressive behavior can be experienced by others as being a bad kid. However, this is not the case. Anger is used by children as a way for them to shield themselves from deeper emotional distress. Aggressive behavior can be an outward symptom of depression, guilt, fear, disappointment, jealousy, frustration, anxiety, sadness, or hurt, among other emotions.
One year at my family reunion, my cousin was upset with herself for having forgotten to bring something (a food item, I believe). She began berating herself out loud in a most unforgiving way. “I should have known better. Why didn’t I double check? I’m always forgetting something. Leave it to me. Mom told me not […]
